Why we are obsessed with changing others?

Episode Highlights:

• Relationships are mirrors that can serve to show us things about ourselves that can be realized in no other way. What you see in another and don’t like most probably exists in you in some form
• Growth partnerships are our most challenging relationships. They help us bring to the surface our own incomplete parts, what we are committed to in the relationships; at the same time, they help us to fulfill our purpose, such as understanding, patience, compassion
• Most of the time when we point at another we project our own insecurities, beliefs, stories,,,our own bullshit. We are very good at turning around any situation to validate our own commitments
• Most of the time if we struggle in relationships we run away, close up or try to change another
• We are obsessed with changing others. But can we accept and love the idea that people are different? That they are coming from different backgrounds, families, have gone through different experiences that shaped who they are
• Every person is going through his perfect evolution process. Honor his choices. If you want to help him accept, support and love him the way he is and see what will happen
• We love criticizing and blaming our parents for not raising us ”in a right way”. What if we can filter the way they behave with us, what they advise us through the eyes of love? What if it’s the only way they know how to show they love you?
• Never say to another he/she need to change or fix something; what you will get in return is their resistance. If you want to support your friend, family member, partner create safe space, allow him/her to be as he/she is. We all need safe space to open up, to be heard and loved