Our perceptions are creating our reality.
When you were little did you have a goldfish? Was it swimming forward or backward in your child’s eyes? …Most probably you do not remember…or your answer is ‘’of course forward’’, but in the eyes of little Dorsy fish was swimming backwards by wagging his head.
Some time ago I listened to the inspiring Ted talk by Issac Lidsky. He told a fascinating story…little Dorsy was talking to her daddy about a goldfish. He explained that the fish was wagging his tail to propel himself through the water. Without any doubt little girl responded ‘’Yes, daddy, and fish swims backwards by wagging his head’’…In her mind it was an obvious fact. She believed it without any doubt.
In our lives we are creating lots of ‘’backward-swimming fish’’.
Our perceptions, assumptions, and fears are creating our reality. We love making up stories about what is possible for us. We love convincing ourselves that what we desire is unattainable. We judge others based on our own perceptions, which might be nothing to do with who they really are. We love putting people in boxes without even trying to question why a person is behaving in a certain way….at the end, we are all upset children who have created survival strategies to deal with the rest of the world because we have something incomplete within our personalities from the childhood, we build them to protect ourselves.
My purpose is not to convince you that you are ‘’making up’’ stories all the time, but rather to suggest you to question your own perceptions, lenses through which you see the world.
How we perceive the world depends largely on what is happening in our internal world. We see in the world what we carry in our heart.
Our past experiences, what we have learned from our parents, the ‘’so called truth’’ they proclaim on television and social media form our perception about the world we live in.
Our fears distort our reality. We are suffering more in our imagination than in the real life (if what we are afraid of actually happens). Fears that something unwanted, unexpected will happen paralyze us and prevents from making actions when it’s so critical. We do not dare to pursue our dreams because our perception of the world is telling us we are going to be judged, not approved, not loved, or that they will ridicule us.
What is the story you are telling to yourself?
What is the story you have created about your own worth, about your abilities and gifts? What is the story you have created about how much joy and abundance you deserve to receive? Are you pushing your brilliant ideas away because in the childhood somebody or something made you feel inadequate (because of their own fears) and you have created perception that you are not good enough, not gifted enough to bring to life those great ideas and play a bigger role? Are you saying ‘’no’’ to the opportunities that are coming your way because you are awfulizing the outcomes and trying to avoid unknown at any cost? Are you attached to the toxic belief that unfair life circumstances have defined your life once and forever?
What is your perception about building close relationships and opening your heart? You have been hurt in the past or you have seen members of your family suffering and have created survival patterns of never getting too close, of never exposing your emotions, of never being vulnerable. You are constantly searching for the evidence of your relationships going wrong, of your partners not being loyal, evidence that you will be hurt?
We create lots backward-swimming fish in our lives that are causing us great harm! The stories we are telling to ourselves, the fears through which we view outside world are closing us in the bubble of self-created reality, which might be far away from the truth. What if outside of our self-created reality is the world full of opportunities and dreams fulfilled, full of joyful relationships, deep connections with people and love…if only we can choose to drop our perceptions, stories and lies we are telling to ourselves, to open our hearts, and see the world with the eyes wide open…you choose….
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